To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven,
a time a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them …
Ecclesiastes 3-5.
In my book I wrote a chapter about “Stones,” where I began rebuilding with rubble after a destructive relationship with a narcissist, and some unhealthy friends after him. I had to rebuild my life on a new foundation.
The friend I met by a swimming pool in an earlier chapter also was going to have to tear down in order to rebuild. She wanted the same thing for herself and her family that I did.
We began meeting over coffee and praying together with our Bibles open. We drew inspiration from a book called “Nehemiah”, about a man who God used to build a big protective wall around a kingdom, out of rubble.
I have learned from that time that with the Lord, no experience is wasted. I am grateful for my nightmare experience with the narcissist because it helped me understand what my friend was going through, and with the Lord’s help I came out of it stronger. We were able to rebuild standing together, uplifting and supporting each other.
So if anyone reading this is recovering from a destructive relationship, I know what its like because I’ve been there. With the Lord it is possible to rebuild, even if rubble is the only thing left to rebuild with. I am blogging for you because the Lord is out there looking for you, and He will restore your soul. That’s a promise from Psalm 23
