In the world, it may seem better and logical to hurt people back. In New Zealand the Maori word for it is ‘utu’. Before Christianity came with the light of the Kingdom, the Maori had never ending tribal warfare. They had no word for forgiveness. In the Lord’s prayer it says “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive them who trespass against us.” Its so hard to do, but it does bring peace, if we can do it. I know that sometimes only God can give us the ability to do it.
Forgiveness is not saying what the offender did was okay. Forgiveness is not inviting victim-hood. You don’t need to let the offender back into your life. Nor do you need to trust them. Trust is earned.
In the next chapter of the Kingdom a character named ‘Cherry’ owed me a big apology. I can’t even remember if I got it now. It doesn’t matter, I forgave her, and I’ve moved on.