The Lord taught me how to look for Him and see signs. At the start of my journey He told me to “setup signs and mark the road“. As a story teller I weave them into my story called “The Kingdom”. Some signs are easier to see than others. This sign was a butterfly.
The butterfly appeared before I found the Kingdom, when “Silver-tongue”, the narcissist, told me “You are like a butterfly in a jar.” I thought he was talking about freedom. No, he wanted to put me in his jar.
I saw a butterfly on the Solitary Path, and my friend White Flower (who did not know that story) dreamed of me and saw it too (Chapter 25 “The Solitary Path“). It was flying free and alone.
In this chapter, “Chapter 29 The Butterfly”, I was with Liang and his friends, discussing transitional relationships, when the butterfly again fluttered its way into my peripheral vision. The butterfly was being held and needed to be let go.
“Other relationships can help to rebuild, but a pitfall is investing too much emotional time and energy into the new relationship. Learn all you can, heal all you can, and stop holding the precious butterfly in your hands so tightly that it can’t fly and be free. The energy you spend holding on tightly to the other person and relationship keeps you from climbing your own mountain and completing your own healing”.
I was trying to use a relationship to heal from an earlier relationship with a narcissist. Its not wise to do that, and it is not the way of the Kingdom.
How poor are they that have not patience!
What wound did ever heal but by degrees?
Shakespeare, Othello, Act 2 Scene 3
From experience, the best way of healing is just to be patient with yourself and allow time, and God’s love to get you through. If you don’t know the Lord, call on his name, for He is near to the broken hearted.
“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart,
And saves such as have a contrite spirit.” Psalm 34:18
He is a healer.
He heals the broken-hearted, and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 That’s a promise.
You may want revenge after being used. I know I did. You will be likely to be so hurt you’ll only make things worse for yourself. Let the Lord handle it. He will mete out justice in the end. Remember, time wounds all heels.