The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1
I repeated the broken home pattern myself, but unlike my maternal grandmother I refused to abandon my children.
My children did not have an ideal home as the father was missing, but unlike the previous generations, I turned to God and he turned this family around. He gave me strength, self worth, boundaries and a lot of practical help. When the children reached their teenage years I was given a second chance at marriage. The man I married is a good man who loves my children like they are his own.
I put two things on hold while I was raising the children on my own – dating and a career.
Did I earn as much money? No. Did I have any romance? No, just temptation.
Was it worth it? Yes! I still got to where I wanted to go, my children have safely reached adulthood, happy and well adjusted. They are navigating life for themselves now. I pray to God that the unhappy pattern of divorces has been broken, to be replaced with happy marriages.
I now respect the home maker profession more than any other. Although I’ve had two careers and now I’m a self employed business woman, I realise it is the most important job you ever get to do.
Satan targets women as they run the most important place – the home. Mothers have the most influence on children – if a mother is broken and can’t raise her sons and daughters, he wins.
There are lots of sharks swimming in the sea of life, and you don’t always see their fins.
2 Timothy 3:1-9 gives you a list of them.
Here are some I encountered;
1) The narcissist who wormed his way into my home with charm, and destroyed it.
2) Religious wolves dressed as sheep – having a form of godliness but denying its power. The ones that are easy to spot are the ones who turn up on your doorstep holding Bibles. Not so easy to spot are the “apostles” who want a percentage of your income as “tithes”.
3) A friend of my daughter who was disobedient to her parents, unholy, and ungrateful. She tried to get my daughter to shop lift.
4) A gossip who slandered a loved one. Covered in an earlier post.
1) I invited in, 2) I did not invite in 3) My daughter invited her in 4) Got invited in with a group of people
Have nothing to do with them.
Ouch, ouch ouch. I asked myself some tough questions in the next chapter of my story.
Weak willed? If they gain control, you have been weak willed.
Loaded down with sins? Is there stuff in your life or family of origin stuff that hasn’t been dealt with?
Evil desires? Just look at what is on your TV that may sway you, or your child.
So watch yourself. If you are a mother, you are the gate keeper of the home. Its dangerous times we’re living in.
Psalm 101 is a great piece of scripture for a gate keeper. My advice is make it intentional. Learn it, memorise it, and use it. If you put it into effect, it will save you a lot of grief.
Also, Gate Keepers need discernment. You can ask God for this gift.