A lot of people have trouble with dating and courtship. Even Solomon, the wisest King in the Bible, said it’s a thing he did not understand.
“There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand:
The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maiden.” Proverbs 30:19
Its interesting that Solomon should include an eagle, serpent, and ship in his observation about courtship. What do they all have in common , besides being familiar sights to him? Let’s see. Flying. Sliding. Sailing. Courting. I guess its all about the moves.
Pink Flamingos have the moves when it comes to courting. God sends us signs, and I found this picture of a heart on The Telegraph website. What might He want to tell us about the Flamingo?
They do a really cute dance. I like the way they’ve been designed to bust out the moves. How is it they know what to do, and we don’t?
Here is a link for a short movie clip about the Flamingos in Celestun, Mexico. The people there know to protect the Flamingos – because it’s part of their heritage. I wish we had the wisdom to teach our children about courtship and protect the marriage covenant in our own societies.
What kind of moves do men and women make when it comes to courting these days? Courting is out of fashion isn’t it? I knew it as ‘dating’ and my daughter calls it ‘hooking up’. What is courting? What are the rules, etiquette, and social mores? I know its not what we see portrayed on TV and the films. It’s not even close. If children don’t see it from Mum and Dad, how are they supposed to learn? The media is the wrong place to learn about courtship. When it comes to the world, eveything goes. Now my children are trying to find their way through the same maze, and it’s grown even worse now that there’s all sorts of immoral stuff being passed into law.
What’s God’s pattern for courtship and marriage? Right from the start, He designed marriage to be between one man and one woman. The Old Testament kings and patriachs had plural wives, but this would have been a result of sin – not His perfect design.
God inspired Solomon to write that a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12. He, being the third strand. It makes all the difference. God designed marriage so a man and woman could become one, and from that union, produce a family. He also uses marriage to strengthen families where the father or mother is missing. Listen, God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. Psalm 68:6.
Chapter 69 The Courtship tells the story about the courtship that began with the man God found for me. I’d been a rebellious one living in a sun scorched land, before I came to trust the Lord and accept His pattern for marriage. My husband had been a lonely guy, waiting for the wife the Lord had promised. I am so glad that God chose him for me. It’s better to dance to God’s tune.
I found a couple of good links about courtship here: