The Gate Keeper

battle-readyWe’re in a war, and it involves our homes.  I should know.  I come from four generations of broken homes on my mother’s side.  I never knew my own grandmother.

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.  Proverbs 14:1

I repeated the broken home pattern myself, but unlike my maternal grandmother I refused to abandon my children.

My children did not have an ideal home as the father was missing, but unlike the previous generations, I turned to God and he turned this family around.  He gave me strength, self worth, boundaries and a lot of practical help.  When the children reached their teenage years I was given a second chance at marriage.  The man I married is a good man who loves my children like they are his own.

I put two things on hold while I was raising the children on my own – dating and a career.

Did I earn as much money?  No. Did I have any romance?  No, just temptation.

Was it worth it?  Yes!  I still got to where I wanted to go, my children have safely reached adulthood,  happy and well adjusted.  They are navigating life for themselves now.  I pray to God that the unhappy pattern of divorces has been broken, to be replaced with happy marriages.

I now respect the home maker profession more than any other.  Although I’ve had two careers and now I’m a self employed business woman, I realise it is the most important job you ever get to do.

Satan targets women as they run the most important place – the home.   Mothers have the most influence on children – if a mother is broken and can’t raise her sons and daughters, he wins.

warHe will look for where you are most vulnerable, and tempt you there.  Be careful what you let into your home.

There are lots of sharks swimming in the sea of life, and you don’t always see their fins.

2 Timothy 3:1-9 gives you a list of them.

Here are some I encountered;

1) The narcissist who wormed his way into my home with charm, and destroyed it.

2) Religious wolves dressed as sheep – having a form of godliness but denying its power.  The ones that are easy to spot are the ones who turn up on your doorstep holding Bibles.  Not so easy to spot are the “apostles” who want a percentage of your income as “tithes”.

3) A friend of my daughter who was disobedient to her parents, unholy, and ungrateful.  She tried to get my daughter to shop lift.

4) A gossip who slandered a loved one.  Covered in an earlier post.

1) I invited in, 2) I did not invite in 3) My daughter invited her in 4) Got invited in with a group of people

Have nothing to do with them.

In 2 Timothy 3:1-9 they are described as “the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires …”Tellievision

Ouch, ouch ouch.  I asked myself some tough questions in the next chapter of my story.

Weak willed?  If they gain control, you have been weak willed.

Loaded down with sins?  Is there stuff in your life or family of origin stuff that hasn’t been dealt with?

Evil desires?  Just look at what is on your TV that may sway you, or your child.

So watch yourself.   If you are a mother, you are the gate keeper of the home.  Its dangerous times we’re living in.

Psalm 101 is a great piece of scripture for a gate keeper.  My advice is make it intentional.  Learn it, memorise it, and use it.  If you put it into effect, it will save you a lot of grief.

Also, Gate Keepers need discernment.  You can ask God for this gift.

 

The way that is blameless

A child that lives with criticism, learns to condemn. It’s from a poem “Lessons from life” by Ronald Russell and also in a poem called “Children learn what they live.

Constant criticism and verbal abuse are devastating for a child.  It eats away with at their self-worth and undermines their self-confidence.   He or she will grow up under-valuing or even hating themselves.

When I grew up, I continued speaking to myself with my parent’s words.  I believed them, condemned myself for my mistakes, and “shoulded” on myself.

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The Lord restores souls.  He wanted my future to be better than my past.

He gave me the words to Psalm 101,

“I will walk in my house with blameless heart.”

What do you think a person who has grown up with criticism and verbal abuse will think when they read that?

I pulled back from Him saying I couldn’t BE perfect, know matter how much I wanted to be.  He made me look up what “blameless” means.

Blameless means to be without culpability, fault, guilt, incrimination.  When I realised what God really wanted when He said “blameless,” it set me free and gave me hope for the future.

Have you been hurt by harsh words growing up?  If you have had death spoken over you by a parent or authority figure, Christ wants to set you free.

I want you to know that in Christ there is no condemnation.

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.” Romans 8:1

May you walk in your house with a heart free from blame.

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Who may enter the Kingdom?

In the next chapter of the Kingdom, as well as building boundaries I had to set limits on friendships.  Who could enter my Kingdom?  I had to pick and choose who would be admitted into my life from then on.  I chose the words to Psalm 101 for my rebuilt Kingdom because God wanted it to be intentional.  I had not been discriminating enough between good and evil.

For now the Kingdom of God is hidden.  Jesus reigns in the lives of His followers, in that we are a new creation who believe in Him and voluntarily obey Him.  We try to implement His will on Earth as it is in Heaven.  One day He will return to Earth and rule as its rightful King, when every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that he his Lord. (Philippians 2:9-11)  When will He return?  I don’t know, no man knows the day or the hour (Matthew 24:36) , but the Judge is standing at the door.  (James 5:9)

The first thing He will do after sitting on the world’s throne is judge.

For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.  2 Corinthians 5:10

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Would Jesus discriminate?

God has boundaries too.  He doesn’t smile and wink at sin as the liberals would have us believe.  Does he discriminate?  He has set out in His word who will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

“Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.   And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”  2 Peter 3.

I’m not having a go at anyone.  I fell into one of those categories myself once.  This verse doesn’t mean that anybody who has ever committed one of these sins will be denied entrance to the Kingdom of God.   It means we have to struggle out of all of that, and with God’s help leave it behind us.  Read more: http://www.gotquestions.org/not-inherit-kingdom-God.html#ixzz2cgpsUg7k

I have posted about this because a law has just come into effect in my country which enshrines one of these sins.  Our government’s immoral laws will lead many to hell, and I don’t want it to happen.  The King doesn’t want it to happen.  He said “over my dead (crucified) body” and He really meant it.

Judge JudyThe problem is our western societies beliefs and laws are being rebuilt on secular humanism, and have been for years.  Secular humanism has no concern for a person’s spiritual well being.  Cindy Livingstone has described it in her post, POSTMODERNISM “The Spirit of the Age”;

Sin needs to be struggled against and overcome, not celebrated and enshrined into law.

So who may inherit the Kingdom of God?  Jesus said “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”  (Matthew 5:3)  Poor in spirit in that they recognise they’re sinners who have messed up, in need of a saviour, and like the thief on the cross, they have asked Jesus for salvation.  For theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.

One of the criminals who hung there (on the cross) hurled insults at him: “Aren’t you the Messiah? Save yourself and us!”  But the other criminal rebuked him. “Don’t you fear God,” he said, “since you are under the same sentence?   We are punished justly, for we are getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong.”  Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.”  Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”  Luke 23:40-43

Blessed are the poor in spirit