Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match …

matchmakerMy second marriage is a bit different because we had God acting as the match maker.  It is a match made by God in Heaven, but lived out here on Earth.

How did He get us there?  God led me through the story I write.

Over seven years He told me things along the way about the man he had chosen for me.

In the story, I referred to the man as “the Chosen”, and when I met him, “Prince Mentor”.  The Lord has asked me to put the story online.

When I did meet “the chosen”, it wasn’t love at first sight.  There was no romance.  I presumed that because I had been told about his nationality, and the fact that our paths would cross in a circle, that he would know about me.   Not so.  He presumed the Lord had some other woman for him, and kept telling me about her.  It was a mind game for me.  I got really obstinate and decided not to reveal anything the Lord had told me about him.

To complicate matters, I had a friend named “Ishmael” who loved me and gave me words of affirmation.  He spoke my love language!  He was only a friend because he was from a different culture, and a moslem.

It was never going to happen and I’d told him to go back to his wife, but we remained friends.  Ishmael bolstered my self esteem.  I basked in the warmth of his approval, feeling wanted and desired.  It was completely different with “Isaac”, the chosen guy.  I felt unwanted because of his actions.

I ended up talking to them both until the Lord made me put a stop on Ishmael.   The Lord said I needed to tell Isaac that he was the man God had chosen for me.  I said no to God, repeating what Isaac had said – “he didn’t want any uncomfortable moments.”  Nor did I.

In fact I said a bit more than ‘no’ to the Lord.  Then the King in my story turned into a lion and basically made me tell him the story.

I was afraid he might trample my pearls into the mud.  It had happened to me once before, when it hadn’t been about a match made by the Lord.  That time I’d been trying to build some boundaries, without knowing how.  The Lord assured me that this man was not a pig.  He told me the parable about the merchant who sought after pearls, and found one of great price.

Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls, who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it.”  Matthew 13:-45-46

So with white knuckles I obeyed the Lord and sent the story to the man.

What happened next?  You’ll have to read my book.

The Kingdom and the Pearl

What does the Kingdom look like?  Jesus used a story about a pearl to tell us about His Kingdom.

“Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls, who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it.”  Matthew 13:45-46

Pearl, Kingdom of Heaven


First, let’s look at the pearl.  A pearl is formed from an injury to a mollusc or oyster.  If a grain of sand lodges inside the shell it causes it great discomfort, and it will deposit a layer of nachre (also known as mother of pearl) around the thing causing the hurt.  This process is called one of nature’s most prized secrets.  For all of our technology  man cannot replicate this phenonoma outside of an oyster.

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Let’s look at nachre, the wonderous material that makes up a pearl.  It is not just a soothing substance, it is made up of millions of microscopic crystals, each aligned perfectly so that light passing along the axis of one is reflected and refracted by the other, to produce a tapestry of light and colour. Light reflected from the layers produces the iridescent lustre.

So the pearl is made up of millions of structures, each designed to align perfectly, each reflecting and refracting iridescent light.  Do you see the Kingdom yet?  Let me take you to the gates; The twelve gates were twelve pearls, each gate made of a single pearl.  Revelation 21:21

Who is the mechant who seeks these pearls?  He is the one who sought the pearl, found the pearl, recognised it’s value, and gave up everything He had for it.

Pearl and JesusDo you know how valuable a human life is to God?  This is from the Bible;
“No one can redeem the life of another or give to God a ransom for them–
the ransom for a life is costly, no payment is ever enough–so that they should live on forever and not see decay.”  Psalm 49:9

Jesus said of Himself  that “He did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”  Matthew 20:28.

Jesus is the merchant, and we are the pearl.  We’ve all been formed out of pain, and He knows it.  Will you see yourself reflected in His eyes?  Will you believe that you are worth a King’s ransom, allow Him to pay the ransom, and become His?

Choose this day …

WChoicee live in a sea of possibilities and choices.  Some choices are bigger than others, for instance who we will marry, or where we will spend eternity.  Sometimes we are the answer to someone’s prayer. 

On Easter Monday we picked up a guy from the side of the road, I’ll call him Shaun.  This guy didn’t have a lot of choices to make at this point of his journey – just stick his thumb out or keep walking north.  He was stuck in the North Island at Easter without any money or transport.

We had a choice to make too.  Should we turn the car around?  We’d gone past him, but 3kms up the road the Lord asked my husband to turn the car around and go get him.  I’m glad we obeyed.  We found out he’d been standing for two hours waiting for a lift, and hadn’t eaten for two days.

While he was sleeping his friend had ditched him at a motel, taking his pack and wallet.  Shaun told us his friend had got onto meth, which he hadn’t known abour prior to their reunion at Easter.  He noticed how much it had changed his friend, and had a bad feeling about it.  The bad feeling hadn’t stopped him being robbed.

choose wiselySomeone at Taupo (the town he’d been stranded at) contacted a church at Tokoroa – a town further north.  The church told him they could help with accomodation until he could get back to the South Island, he just needed to put $40 towards it.  We gave Shaun the $40, plus the food left over from the long weekend, including some Easter eggs.

I asked Shaun if he knew who was helping him, and what Easter was all about.  Shaun didn’t know, so we explained how Christ had died on the cross for our sins.

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Shaun realised he had a choice to make, and somewhere between Taupo and Tokoroa, he made Christ his Lord.  It’s the biggest and most important choice he has ever made or will make.

If you know you have a choice to make about the Lord, then don’t delay.  It’s getting dark out there.  Choose this day whom you will serve.

Now to the next most important choice, who we will marry.  I chose my first husband, and it didn’t work out.  When I came to know the Lord, I asked Him to choose the next one.  The Lord promised I would remarry, and told me He had a guy already chosen for me.  In the Kingdom I referred to this man as the ‘chosen’, and (after I met ‘Ishmael’) I called him ‘Issac’.

‘Isaac’ had been praying for a wife.  When he arrived in my life seven years later, he believed the Lord had someone else for him.  It tripped me up big time.  Isaac didn’t know he was ‘the chosen’, and I was grumpy and not saying anything.  I expected if I knew about him, it would logically follow he would know about me.  Not necessarily!  Chapter 62 Choosing the Chosen tells the story.

Sometimes we are the answer to someon’e prayer.  Happy choose day!

 

 

Iron sharpens iron

proverbs_27_17_postcardThe devil used a relationship with a narcissist to try and destroy me, but it didn’t succeed.  It is true that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.  I knew life could only get better after him, and God gave me an awesome promise;

“He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap; he seats them with princes, with the princes of his people.”  Psalm 113:8

God was true to His promise, but when the Princess met the Prince, sparks flew.  There is a saying in the Bible ” As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”  Perhaps that’s why there were sparks.

People you need

 

Our relationship was different from the start because God brought us together.  We didn’t like each other to begin with, but God encouraged our friendship, and it grew from there.

Chapter 60 Iron Sharpens Iron tells the story

 

God’s promises, how to get them, hold on to them, and believe them

Logos and RhemaThe Bible is God breathed, double edged and speaks in two ways.

One thing God has spoken,
    two things I have heard … ” Psalm 62:11

First there is the LOGOS word, which is for general application.  There is history, allegory, prophecy, and wisdom.  The LOGOS word must be read on context, for us to understand what God us saying.

Secondly there is the RHEMA word.  It comes from meditation upon the word of God.  This is for personal application, where the Holy Spirit will speak directly to you, and it will bring revelation.  It’s like food.  If you are not partaking of God’s Word, you won’t receive revelation or nourish your spirit.

In the next chapter of the Kingdom, I’d had a Rhema word, which seemed not to be true.  I was getting really cranky with God over it.  God is not the author of confusion.  He told me he couldn’t lie, and He was waiting for His word to be fulfilled.  I just had to wait, and trust Him.

How do we know the difference between a Rhema Word and wishful thinking?  A Rhema Word will get confirmed, and God will bring it about in your life – if you believe in God’s word and don’t thwart His will.

Every promise

The Post Turtle

Post TurtleSome people think God’s an old man with long white hair, sitting on a cloud waiting to smite us.  What do you think of Him?  I have discovered that He’s real,  wants us to trust Him and actually does have a sense of humour.   One day He told me “If you see a turtle sitting on top of a fence post, it didn’t get there by accident.” 

It was in the context of a situation where I had bitten off a bit more than I could chew, by taking on a job in my industry that I had no experience in.

It meant I had to rely on Bert, my predecessor to get me up to speed – quickly.  I hated it through fear of being left helpless.  Have you ever been in a situation where you are vulnerable and you’ve had to learn fast?

Bert knew things that I didn’t, that I needed to know.  That’s the BLIND spot.  In a learning situation, that’s where you are most vulnerable.  I’ve been attacked instead of helped in the blind spot, and it’s a bad place to be.  I promised myself I’d get the knowledge in whatever way I could, and learn fast.  Anything not to be reliant on a person.  When I met Bert I didn’t know him well enough to trust him, and this was the second time in 5 years that I’d replaced him in a job.  The first time, he refused to train me, saying he didn’t have time.  So the second time around I didn’t know whether he was going to help me, or harm me.

In communication, there’s a thing called ‘Johari’s Window’, where knoweldge is divided up into four categores:

CERTAINTY.  Things that I know that you know,

The BLIND spot.  Things you know that I don’t know,

HIDDEN.  Things I know that you do not know,

The UNKNOWN – Things that we all don’t know.

God is in charge of the UNKNOWN spot.  In the Kingdom, He told me things from the UNKNOWN, and I recorded His words and signs in the Kingdom story.  So there were things God had revealed to me about Bert, before I ever met him or knew him.

The things that I knew, that Bert didn’t, I kept HIDDEN.  He didn’t want any “uncomfortable moments”, and nor did I for that matter.  I would have kept what I knew hidden for Kingdom come, except God got in the picture.  He’s been in many roles in the Kingdom story; as Counselor, Shepherd, King, Guide, Friend, Lord and Father.  This time God was being a matchmaker.  He had His hands full with us because we didn’t particularly like each other.

Bert and I were both reading “Word for the Day”.  He’d bring me his spare copy.  God spoke to both of us out of the “Word for the Day”.

God talked about “a post turtle”, and a woman who was in a situation where she needed help but kept shouting, ‘I’ll do it myself!’  He askedAre you like that? Trying to do it all on your own?” and then He said; “Somebody within your reach knows something you need to know; something you’ll never learn on your own. They’re your mentor. Get close to them. ”

There are two stories about the post turtle.  The first story is a joke which is usually about politicians.

An old rancher is talking about politics with a young man 
from the city. He compares a politician to a "post turtle". 
The young man doesn't understand and asks him what a post turtle is.
The old man says, "When you're driving down a country road and you see 
a fence post with a turtle balanced on top, that's a post turtle. 
You know he didn't get up there by himself. 
He doesn't belong there; 
he can't get anything done while he's up there; 
and you just want to help the poor, dumb thing down."

Don't joke about TurtleThe second story is more in line with what God told me; “If you see a turtle sitting on top of a fence post, it didn’t get there by accident.”

In the novel The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell,  Father D.W. Yarborough, the leader of the first Earth expedition to another planet, refers to post turtles in the context of seeming anomalies in nature and regards them as proof of the existence of God, specifically of God trying to get our attention.

My story about the turtle is told in Chapter 57 Message from the King, where God was trying to get my attention.

 

Full Circle

Full circleThe Kingdom story has chronicled my wanderings through a hidden world , where I received guidance from a King, whose name is Jesus – the one who calls Himself “The Way, The Truth, and the Life”.   At the beginning of the journey I felt lost and was afraid that this was all wishful thinking.  I wanted to believe so badly that He was guiding me. 

At the beginning of my story I wanted to know where in the world I was supposed to be.  Neil Diamond’s song “I am I said” resonated with me.  I felt lost between two shores, and kept thinking about making my way back to the place where I had been happy.  The song lamented “And I am lost, and I can’t even say why.”

The Lord told me to setup signs and mark the road because He was going to show me where I was supposed to be.  He said it would involve going full circle, it would involve a man, and from that He would create a new thing.  The story is recorded here in this chapter; The Kingdom – Signs.

“Set up road signs;
put up guideposts.
Take note of the highway,
the road that you take.
Return, O Virgin Israel,
return to the town you left.
How long will you wander,
faithless daughter?
The LORD will create a new thing on earth—
a woman will encircle a man.”  Jeremiah 31:21-22

It was hard for me to believe, and I wasn’t an easy person to lead.  It was true when the Lord said “How long will you wander, faithless daughter?”  But He kept me to the road from the signs and guideposts I observed and marked in the story, in obedience to His instructions.

If you have stuck with me this far, thank you so much.  I am honoured to have your company.   Now we are getting to the incredible part.  Seven years later I went full circle, and another character comes into the story.

The scene is “in the town I left”.

The circle started five years before at a place I called “the Tower”, recorded here:  Chapter 16 The Place of the Tower.

The circle ends here: Chapter 54 Full circle.